Women’s Day thoughts
As you might all know, yesterday was the International Women’s Day.
This year I was full of emotions and thoughts on this day:
I was inspired by the #virághelyett (translated as ‘instead of flowers’) civil campaign in the Hungarian media. Women were sharing their wishes they asked for Women’s Day, like equal salary, real appreciation, places in leadership positions in business and politics… instead of flowers.
I felt thankful for this video for the important words of wisdom by a man (unfortunately it’s not available in English, yet).
I was proud of Emma Watson, who reinforced that feminism is not a stick to beat up other women.
I was stunned by the video, which told us the story of undervalued female researchers in science.
I was excited about the new story book, Good Night Stories For Rebel Girls, in which there are stories of famous, successful, clever and confident women, instead of empty-headed princesses, who are only waiting for the prince.
I was not touched by the meaningless flower pictures in the social media, the empty Women’s Day wishes.
This morning one of my friends shared on Facebook that she had not got a single flower yesterday. There were likes, angry faces, hearts and under the post, in the comment section, oh yes, there were “tons of” pictures of bouquets and flower emojis. Then I did a quick Facebook search and indeed, could not find a whole lot of “typical” Women’s Day posts.
For me, Women’s Day is not about flowers.
You might appreciate getting flowers, and that’s also fine. Fortunately, we are all different and I want to emphasise, that this is just my opinion, how I see things, not the only and unquestionable truth. Flowers to me are the easiest way out. It’s not only boring and evident but also meaningless; an empty gesture. We get flowers from people who don’t really know us so have no idea what would really make us happy. Flowers are the most conventional way to imitate a tiny bit of appreciation. In fact, they are the socially accepted symbol of imitation. And also, getting a piece of dead creature as a present is just not my thing.
I still felt sad when I saw her post. I know it wasn’t about that freaking flower. More like she did not even get a flower, the false impression of appreciation. And that’s the real problem.
In an ideal world
people are equal, have equal rights and possibilities, there is no discrimination nor oppression AND women are not getting flowers on Women’s Day. Maybe there is no Women’s Day at all as there is no need to imitate, as the appreciation is REAL.
Women face a huge amount of difficulties and discrimination because of their gender on a daily basis. Even though feminism has won important cases and we have a long and significant path behind us, there is still a lot to do.
On Women’s Day we have to look back to revise the past and also to look forward in the present moment to concentrate planning the future. Until there is wage gap, female circumcision or domestic violence in any part of the world, feminism still has legitimacy and assignment.
Women’s Day is not about women’s right, it is about human rights and equality.
Women and men should stand up together against humiliating discrimination, against the toxic social expectation, to get out of the wring of sickening tendencies of hundreds of years.
Real appreciation and attention would be the real thing and not only on the 8th March of every year, but every moment of every day forever.
We are at the beginning of changing our own lives! Here are a few suggestions that might come handy during the journey towards a better life, every day:
- Listen to each other. Women are more likely to experience verbal abuse (being cut short, talked over or lauder by conversation partners who are simply not paying attention to what they have to say)
- Respect each other. Not because of their gender or age, but for being a human being. Everyone deserves respect.
- Support each other. Our society is unfair towards men too. Just think about the sky high expectations towards all of us. Know that you do not have to be superhuman 24/7.
- Speak up! Dare to speak. Know that your thoughts are important!
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